How do I remove someone from my book club?

I started my own book club a few months ago with some close friends, and it's been going quite well since then. Everyone contributes to the discussion, even people who are normally quieter.



Then two meetings ago, one of the members brought in one of her friends, and the dynamic shifted a little bit to more conversational.



At the latest meeting, this new member brought one of her friends. They talk about inconsequential things, and do it in such a manner that make some of the aforementioned quieter members silence completely.



Any advice on how to get these new, uninvited ladies to leave would be much appreciated!How do I remove someone from my book club?
Personally, I think you have to be rather blunt about it. It is YOUR book club.



Take the original member who brought her friend to the meeting aside and speak to her about the problem. Ask her to tell her friend that ALL discussion is to be centered around the book and nothing else. If the original member's friend (and the other friend) refuse to abide by this, tell that member her friends are not welcome.



If the original member refuses to convey this message, you will have to take these two newcomers aside and tell them frankly that discussion outside of the book is not welcome and, if they refuse to abide by your terms, THEY aren't welcome. Your book club, your rules. If they don't like it, they should form their own club.



Another suggestion would be to print out a list of the rules by which your club functions. In the next meeting, you could hand a copy to each person and briefly tell each what is expected and what won't be permitted. Then go on to discuss the book at hand. If either lady interrupts with something inconsequential, halt the discussion and single her out - perhaps asking her how what she just said refers to the book you are discussing.



It may sound a bit harsh, but if you don't nip this in the bud now, you will have lost your book club.



Here's wishing you success!

How do I remove someone from my book club?
Perhaps you could try to get the friends who invited them to get rid of them :D



But if you want to do it yourself, you could politely try explain to them that the book club is for conversation on the book, and if they want to socialize to do it at another time and another place [:How do I remove someone from my book club?
I'd have no idea. Being assertive and not unintentionally offensive is not something I've managed to do.

If I were you I'd talk to both of them. Explain how the book club works and that while you love getting new members you need to make sure they adhere to the unofficial rules of the club, then they won't be invited to come along again.



Good luck!