How do I become unshy..without having to join stupid book clubs?

I don't want to 'join a club' or something you like. I like nothing. I'm a loser. How do I become unshy and make new friends??How do I become unshy..without having to join stupid book clubs?
I actualy made most of my friends by playing sports. But if you don't like sports then I suggest picking up some sort of video game and talk to people on there through a microphone.
Don't call yourself a loser....that already says that you will not be "unshy" for a while. First you have to have self confidence. Next, you just throw yourself out there. Expose yourself to different situations and other social activities. It is a matter of trial and once you see that you will not die from talking to strangers in a new class for example, you will be able to hold conversations, start them and other social stuff.How do I become unshy..without having to join stupid book clubs?
There is no quick way! I used to be painfully shy. I forced myself to talk to people. Invite them to do stuff, go to their parties and activities, etc; put yourself out there. If you feel like doing something, do it even if you think you might look strange. Note: when you are trying to make friends, it is good to find fun things to do with them. Also, make sure that you don't try and pick out one person to be good friends with at a time. It might scare that person off or creep them out.



Book club....is totally unecessary. =) Find something else that you like to do. I don't know what you have access to, but having a hobby definitely makes you more interesting. Here are a few you could try:



Running (This stinks for about a year before it becomes fun. But when it does, it actually is awesome, and by that time you will probably be a lot happier with the way you look and feel. Plus, you can invite your friends to come running with you. I have gone running with many friends, and even organized my own races).



Art (endless possibilities here, and almost everyone is interested in art and artists. Try oil or acrylic painting, carving, jewelry making, creating things with wire, etc; again, you can easily invite people to do this with you.)



Music: Guitar is endlessly popular. Piano is also a good one. It takes about 30 min to an hour a day to be any good.



Of course, making and keeping friends takes time and effort. You can't do nothing and become more outgoing. If you really don't like anything, you may have to do some things that you don't like for a while. Also, people love those who are interested in them. Do things that other people like to do. Remember their birthdays. Do nice things for them.



And don't give up!
If you believe you are shy, then you will be shy. If you sincerely believe you are confident then you WILL be confident. You don't have to be confident to believe you are confident.How do I become unshy..without having to join stupid book clubs?
figure out why you avoid social situations and fix it
With this motto... I guess time will be your friend.

Once you start having any form of genuine interest in others, then you stop being technically what professionals call a sociopath.